Romantic relationships can be a common source of stress. Even if they’re not, external stressors have a way of negatively impacting even the most solid relationships to shake things up.
Good relationships are a critical component of a healthy and happy life. They provide much-needed support through tough times, they uplift us, and they fulfill us in a deep way that nothing else can. Challenging relationships, however, can negatively impact our health and make everything feel much more difficult.
In this post, you’ll learn how to let go of stress in your most important relationships so you and those you care about can thrive in life and in relationships with others.
A common mistake people make when it comes to relationships is thinking that they’re a “set it and forget it” kind of thing. Once the relationship is solidified through a commitment, like marriage, they think it’s smooth sailing from there and that the relationship needs no further work, energy, or intention to maintain.
Not the case!
A relationship is like a garden; it needs tending and care in order to thrive. As humans, we’re always growing and evolving. We’re constantly dealing with new things, working through old things, and have our own unique set of dreams and fears.
If the relationship isn’t tended to in this state of constant evolution, there’s bound to be struggle as individuals seek to continue relating and understanding each other. In many relationships, stress is born out of the idea that everything should be fine because it’s been fine before.
Instead of stressing over what isn’t, seek to understand and accept what is: that people grow and change. The best relationships are ones where you understand this and seek to support each other in individual and unified growth.
When you better understand yourself, you know what you bring to the table in relationships. By understanding your stressors, challenges, and trauma, you can better communicate them and see where they show up in the way you respond and react to someone else. You can also help the other person better understand and support you through your challenges and vice versa.
Alternatively, when you’re confident in yourself and know what you want and need, you’ll be better equipped to communicate that and experience more satisfaction out of your relationships. Oftentimes, arguments between partners occur because of differences or feelings of neglect. But if those differences and desires can be properly communicated and resolved, these issues can get addressed before they become serious problems leading to long-term stress and resentment.
Too often, we may unknowingly bring stress home and take it out on our partner when, really, they’ve got nothing to do with it. For example, if you had a rough day at work, the kids were particularly challenging, or you received bad news, it might be easy to take jabs at your partner and react negatively to things that do not warrant that type of response.
Instead of using our partners as way to attempt to offload our stress—which does nothing to improve the relationship or our stress—we can view our partner as a safe haven, a refuge, a place to relax and unwind. That way, we can let go of stress and lean on our partner as a safe place to rest from the stressors of life.
Instead of harboring stress and bringing it into our most important relatinoships, its important to find ways to let go of that stress where it starts: within ourselves.
Take steps to reduce your stress, and find an easy way to communicate your stress with your partner. Sometimes, simply saying aloud to your partner, “I’m feeling overwhelmed,” or “I’ve had a stressful day,” can diffuse a situation before it starts and communicate with your partner that you’re in a heightened state. By communicating how you feel, you get it out of your mind and into the open and gives your partner the opportunity to offer support. This strengthens your relationship.
Here are some easy ways to reduce stress before you bring it home:
Here are a few ways to reduce stress in your relationship:
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